Salam. In the past two entries, I’ve mention about my last program with AKHI Club (as a student) in Cermas Agropark Camp. So, let me share few things especially from the motivational talk from Fadzli Yusof.
First of all, I’m quite surprised to know that he was an IIUM student and he was the SRC president in 2002 (not sure). He has degree in Laws but he enjoy talking and motivate others. That is basically how he become a trainer. For more info, you can check his website.
Since he was an IIUM student, he truly understand our environment and lifestyle. That’s make him so special and I really enjoy listening to his talk. He’s such a busy guy and he don’t really update his blog.
Among the topic that he shared with us is how to communicate efficiently. Please note that this is more about interpersonal communication. Communicate through blog is different. I’ll try to share it in the simplest word here.
Elements in Communication Skills
He said that there are three main elements in communication skills. Surprisingly, words are only 7% of our communication. The other two is 38% tonality and 55% body language.
Besides that, he shares his own scientific formula for the success of communication skills. It is look (eye contact) smile and greetings or salam. If he call it science, then I would like to call it as the art of communication. Em.. what’s the different though?
Teknik Sapaan 135
Finally, he shared with us ‘Teknik Sapaan 135’ which mean greeting technique within one, three or five minutes. This is the best way to get to know (taaruf) people that we used to come across in a short time. Imagine like you used to meet this guy/girl in college, cafe or class, but you never talk with him/her. Even though you always came across each other, you never know his/her name. So, he shared this one cool technique on how to get to know his/her name professionally. (Somehow, it sounds like a flirting technique).
1. Talk something general. What you see and what he/she sees. Don’t talk about personal stuff.
2. Finally you can ask for his/her name before ending the conversation.
I like the idea of this 135 greeting technique. If I knew about it earlier, I could have make more friends in UIA. However, the real challenge is to apply this technique in the real world out there, I mean the workforce.
How to become popular in the society?
In an article I’ve read few years back, one of the technique to become popular in the society (e.g. at faculty or campus) is through greetings and salam. Even our Prophet Muhammad pbuh is always greet his companions and others. For the past four years in UIA, despite I’m not greet everyone I met, at least, by smiling to others, it can shows your respect and humble towards others. So, if you don’t give salam, at least give your smile to people you know. There’s nothing to lose if you give your smile and salam. I’m sure in the end of the day, people will recognize you and you’ll become popular. Don’t do stupid thing to be popular.
Alright then. This is all that I can share with you guys. I’m not really good to express this in words. You can always Google or read some books from self help or self development shelves.
I really found this talk useful because indirectly, it also had boost my confidence before I’m going for my first job. Two more post to go before I talk about my first job. Stay tuned!